Yes, you can get herpes from kissing, especially if your kissing partner has oral herpes caused by HSV-1. The virus spreads through direct contact with saliva or skin around the mouth, which is why close contact like kissing can pass it from one person to another.
The risk is highest when there are visible cold sores, blisters, or tingling around the lips, since the virus is most active then. However, herpes can also spread when there are no visible sores because the virus can still be present in saliva. This means someone may not realize they are contagious at the time.
Simple kissing is enough for transmission if the virus is active, particularly deep or prolonged kissing. Sharing items that touch the mouth, such as drinks, utensils, or lip balm, can also spread the virus. Most people who get HSV-1 do not have severe symptoms, but the virus stays in the body and can reactivate later.
To reduce risk, it is best to avoid kissing or close oral contact when cold sores are present or when early symptoms like tingling or burning begin. If outbreaks are frequent or unclear, a primary care doctor or infectious disease specialist can help with evaluation and prevention guidance.